Hira's Love Advice

By Hira Khan
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  I don’t know if I’m the best person to give relationship advice since I never follow anything I ever say to people, but I am in a relationship that has lasted for almost a year. Although it has not been perfect because there are always ups and downs in every relationship, I have learned valuable lessons and certain pointers about what to do and what not to do.  So here are some key pieces of advice about being in a relationship:

Love is in the air.

1. Don’t rush anything.

   You don’t want to get into a relationship with someone with no common interests. Nowadays, I’ve noticed that people are in such a rush to get into a relationship because they’re afraid of being “forever alone” and want someone to cuddle with during the cold weather. But in all seriousness, if you’re just pursuing a relationship because you’re feeling lonely or because you want to fit in, you’re definitely not ready for one. Actually, you shouldn’t even have to pursue a relationship if it’s going to work. I always tell people not to force anything because that’s not going to lead to true love. In order to fall in love with someone, it has to happen naturally – just let it happen.

2. Don’t let your relationship be everybody’s relationship.

   Your business is your business. Not your friends’ businesses. Not the school’s business. Keep it between you and the person. How many times has a relationship deteriorated because of all of the rumors circulating the school? Keep your mouth shut about whatever is going on in your relationship and only tell people you trust if you really need someone to vent. It’s your private life, and it should stay that way.

3. Be with someone with whom you can be yourself.

   What fun is being with someone where you have to filter everything you say because you don’t want to be too weird? Seriously. Be with someone where you can have fun. I promise, laughing and smiling your entire relationship is MUCH more satisfying than having to change yourself to impress someone who actually does not care about you.

4. Patience is everything.

   If you’re in a steady relationship, you guys are going to get jealous easily, fight over the most stupid reasons, and end up on the brink of breaking up. Everyone goes through this. The one thing I can say is: be patient with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Do not lose your temper, do not get angry, do not go psycho on them. Fights can easily be avoided if you talk about the problems calmly and maturely.

 

   I could go on and on and on and on and on and on, but these are four pieces of advice which I think are most important in maintaining a healthy relationship.